Purpose

what is your presence in the world?

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It is not about where you are or what you do, it is about who you are when you’re there.

I have been thinking a lot lately about the idea of presence. Who we choose to BE in the world.

Our daily lives are dominated by WHAT’S. 

What do I want to be when I grow up? 

What do I do for a living? 

What type of person do I want to marry? 

What car will make me look successful? 

What do I want for dinner? 

What. What. What. 

But what about WHO?

Who do I want to be?

Who am I really? 

Somewhere along the way who we are seems to get lost in what we are supposed to be doing. 

We morph into a completely different version of our self, that bends and breaks to fit into the pressures of life around us. And our truest self - our purest, bravest, most powerful presence is muted and hidden. 


So what can we do about it? 

I challenge you to reignite the desire within yourself to align with who you really are, and who you really want to be - rather than who you think you are supposed to be.

Start with some questions: 

What is frustrating me about my life right now?

What am I disappointed in right now?

What bugs me the most about my current situation? 

What mental & emotional (and maybe physical) pain have I caused myself because of these ongoing frustrations? 

What am I willing to change? 

What action can I begin to take RIGHT NOW?

What do I want?

What do I REALLY want? As the truest, bravest, most powerful version of myself? 

Who am I? 

Who am I REALLY? 


Once we are able to get clear on who we truly are - and who we want to be - the WHAT’s become a little less relevant. 

If we are able to step into the truest version of ourselves - what we are doing really doesn’t matter, as long as it aligns with WHO we want to be. 

WHAT no long becomes a single idea. 

When we know WHO we want to be, it opens up the possibility of so many WHAT’s that fit into our truest WHO. 

So…who do you want to be?

are you fully self expressed?

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Am I fully self expressed?
Have I been watering my true self down? 

To fit into a box? To satisfy my “should’s"? To meet someone else’s expectations?

How many of us are fully self expressed? And how many of us have been trampled and forced to retreat from the pressures of everyday life? 

I definitely was not. I was trying to create a life based on what I thought I was supposed to be doing. I was trying to box myself in to the most perfect container that everyone would idolize from the outside. 

But the truth is that on the inside I was in agony. Completely lost and misunderstood - mostly by myself. 

It wasn’t until I really started asking myself what I actually wanted from life that things started to shift. 

What did I really enjoy? What were my deepest passions? 

What lit me up inside? What filled me up?

And the truth is that it led me down a completely different path. A less glamorous path from the outside looking in. But a far more fulfilling path from the inside looking out. 

I wonder how many of us are watering our true selves down
to fit in
or make others happy. 

Are you stuck in a career you hate because it is prestigious and you make good money? 

Are you utterly and completely exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone, every second of the day?

Have you lost sight of the #smalljoys in life that fill you up because you simply don’t make time for them anymore amongst your ever growing to-do list? 

Have you become a bland, lesser version of who you could be because you are trying to be everything to everyone all of the time? 

Without stopping, and taking the time to realize who we actually are, we spend our days living someone else’s life. A life created, molded, trimmed and smashed to fit into other people’s demands, expectations and desires. 

But the good news is that we don’t have to live this way. 

At any point we can stop. And make the choice to start living our fullest, truest, most authentic life. 

Are you ready to stop watering down your truest self?
Lets begin.

do you want {m o r e ?}

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Do you want more?
When do you know it is enough? ⠀


The Mexican Fisherman: ⠀

"The American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. ⠀

Inside the small boat were several large fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. ⠀

The Mexican replied, 'Only a little while.'⠀

The American then asked why he didn't stay out longer and catch more fish. ⠀

The Mexican said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs. ⠀

The American then asked, 'But what do you do with the rest of your time?'⠀

The Mexican fisherman said, 'I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.'⠀

The American scoffed, 'I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat, and with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could eventually buy several boats. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to the middleman, you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small fishing village and move the Mexico City, the LA, and eventually NYC, where you will run your expanding enterprise.' ⠀

The Mexican fisherman asked, 'but how long will this take?'⠀

To which the American replied, '15 to 20 years.'⠀

'But what then?'⠀

The American laughed and said that's the best part. 'When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich; you would make millions.'⠀

'Millions?' asked the fisherman. 'Then what?'⠀

The American said, 'Then you would retire. ⠀Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evening, sip wine, and play guitar with your amigos!'⠀⠀

{ do you know why you want more? }

the capsule {wardrobe} l i f e.

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I have always found the idea of a capsule wardrobe to be appealing. 

I am one of those people who never feels like they have anything to wear.
Even among a sea of perfectly
curated clothing. 

I guess it is more the paradox of choice.

Too many choices weighs you down. Down to the point of feeling empty.
Like you have nothing
even when everything is staring you right in the face. 

A capsule wardrobe eliminates choice. 

Not completely.
Just the endless choice that debilitates us as we stand wide eyed and empty
into the all consuming dark pit
of our closets. 

I have a tendency to fill my closet up.

Fill it up with things I only
half enjoy.

A sale dress from that boutique I really can't afford.
3 t-shirts, a bathing suit cover up, and new sandals
from a Target
binge
{therapy} session. 

It is as if the act of filling it up
is supposed to
make me feel whole. Put together.

Not. A. Single. Piece. Missing.
Or out of place. 

But really a full closet of only half loved things, leaves you right back where you started -

naked and empty. 


What appeals to me most about a capsule wardrobe is the idea of
subtraction. 

The idea of removing everything mindless and
unnecessary. 

Leaving you with only the things you love. 

Only what you love. 
That is all that remains. 


Can we apply this same idea to life?

Subtracting the unnecessary. 

Leaving us with only
the things we love?

Because doesn't a space only partially full
of things we love

feel fuller

than a space filled up
with things we hardly like?